The whole conversation though, made me think that I am not ready for the Boy-drama just yet. After all, she's got 5 more years until she can date. I jsut remember though myself that there was more drama before I could actually date than there was when I could date.
So, here is my words of wisdom on boys that I passed on to Melissa which having said she'll probably completely ignore/forget once the occassion arises, but oh well...
- Whenever you like a boy, don't act differently. So many girls seem to get all silly and stupid and lower their intelligence just because they think that's what they like, but when it comes down to it, the want a smart girl right?
- Never change your opinion just because the boy thinks differently. Why do girls do that (me included, I was guilty of this in Jr. high/High school)? I remember one guy (cause I didn't consider them boys then) who said something totally rediculous, and I went along with the whole thing because I didn't want him to think that I didn't think like him. But I didn't and that's what makes relationships really great right, is being able to discuss the things that you differ on. If we were the same it would be boring.
- Don't assume because a boy is talking and being really friendly with your friend that he likes her and not you because we all know that it is easier to be friendly with the friend than the person you actually like because what if the girl doesn't like you back and rejects you? The friend is safer. Now this one has always just been a theory of mine, but I REALLY think I am right on this one.
- This one I didn't share with her yet, for obvious reasons... she's not there yet, but sometime I will. That is, when you are dating (to find a husband) if you get bored of someone, move on. Cause when you meet the one, you don't really ever get bored. You maybe settle into a routine, but it's not like you actually get tired of being around the person. I have known many people that wasted time just being bored with someone, but not breaking up because they didn't actually hate the person. Why can't you break up nicely and agree that it just isn't going anywhere and still be friends?
So what do you think? Would you add any or take any off the list. Because I am certainly new at this and don't profess to have all the answers or maybe even the right ones. I'm just sayin'.